Talks With My Mom
First off I have to say I absolutely love this woman with all my heart. She’s not only the strongest person I know, but also the kindest. There’s something about her words that always brings me to question life, love and everything in between. Today we were discussing relationships. As she sat there she told me what type of men I should look for; “one that will protect you and love you.” That’s it? I asked. She said with protection came a good father and with love came a good husband. I couldn’t help but ask her what made a “good husband”, since that’s a very general statement. She told me a good husband will be one that accepts you for you, with your qualities and your flaws. No one is perfect and those who stress your imperfections are just simply scared to face theirs. “Life is long but a marriage is even longer,” she said as she laughed. I told her how I truly enjoy to be in relationships. I think I’ve almost mastered making a boy fall in love with me( I stress the word ALMOST) However, I was ready for someone to make me feel that way. She said I will fall in love the day I don’t put any energy into making it happen. When love is real both people put an equal amount of energy balancing out the relationship. When she finished telling me all this she paused and with a half smile said; “ it’s always better if it’s 40-60. They’re men right? They’re a stronger specie, they can handle that extra 10%” Then she went off on her tangent of “please get married and have kids”…I’m 23 and as lost as I feel right now I’m still sure about one thing. I want to get married in true, real, unconditional love. Whether that takes me years and a total of 10+ relationships that’s the only way I will do it. And after that, kids galore ;)
